Hi, All!!! Its been a long time since my last post, almost three weeks!!! Never have I been away so long from blogging since my first post in July 2010. When I first started blogging last year, I requested my immediate family to kindly follow me. Even as the number of my followers grew, I was wondering if they even read my posts. Then over time, I got more followers and more comments on my posts and currently I have 41 followers following my blogs. But, I always saw the same few people commenting regularly on my posts. These people have been my motivators and critics. But I never realized how much my followers love me. Over the last few days, I have received several emails and messages from some of them, including our dear friend, Stranger, who have been beseeching me to actively blog again!! Thank you, Guys, for showering your love on me!! It feels great to be wanted and be appreciated!
Now, the reason why I have been away for such a long time...I have started giving tuition to school kids, I have rejoined the gym again, and I have been busy on the personal front too. Teaching has always been a passion for me. I have always loved to teach. In school and college, I used to help the weaker students with their studies, especially the girls from vernacular regions who found it difficult to follow lectures in English. It was not a favour I was doing for them, but it was my way of studying. I learnt more when I taught someone. It was a proud moment for me when almost 99% of those girls went ahead to do their post-graduation. I am always game to teach anyone as I believe imparting education and knowledge to someone is a way to enrich one's own thinking. You only learn more when you teach.
After many years, I got back to teaching and this is the very first time I was teaching someone as young as 6 years old and mind you, she is teaching me too...teaching me to be patient, teaching me to be prepared for all her innocent questions, and teaching me to control my temper.
But her innocent smile brightens up our days and my husband and I look forward to seeing her each day. I have a few other students too from higher classes, and they all help me become a kid again! I enjoy every session with them, although I must admit they can get on my nerves too especially when I see them spending more time than needed on simple arithmetic problems, the ones that should be done in an instant!!!!
What is more perplexing is the attitude of parents these days! Recently I came across a lady who wanted me to tutor her child. When I asked how much her child scores, I was stunned to know that the child scores a 95+ in her papers. In spite of such great scores, the parent wanted me to tutor her child. I fail to understand why!!! She was offering to send her child to me late evening and I had to remind her that her child would probably be so very tired after a tiring day at school and that it would be preposterous to expect her to stay awake with her studies so late at night. I can't understand why parents push their children so much! When we were growing up, the only times I went to private coaching classes was for my board exams. But private tuition seems to be the trend these days in spite of the high quality of education in schools these days. My parents never had to sit with me even for a single day regarding my studies. I was left on my own and I fared very well. I understand that weaker students would need some extra coaching, but when the toppers are also expected to take private tuition, isn't it too much?? Among the various reasons parents give to justify the need for private coaching the most common ones are:
1. I don't have time to supervise my child's studies.
2. I don't know the subject.
Regarding time, I cannot say much, to each his own. But regarding knowing the subject, this is what I have to say. If you find that the subject is tough, in spite of the detailed explanations given in the textbooks these days, how can you then pressurize your child to learn it and score a perfect score in all exams? We should help our children learn and understand their subjects. We should make learning an enriching experience, something that will help them for the rest of their lives, not only for scoring in their final exams. A person can also memorize everything by heart and replicate it in the papers and top the papers, but will that help him in later life? The real method of learning is to understand what we are learning. Only when we understand and picturize it in our minds, will that knowledge remain with us for a very long long time. This is what I feel. But since I do not have a child of my own, I am curious to know what you all think about the same. Please let me know your opinions regarding our education system.
Now, the reason why I have been away for such a long time...I have started giving tuition to school kids, I have rejoined the gym again, and I have been busy on the personal front too. Teaching has always been a passion for me. I have always loved to teach. In school and college, I used to help the weaker students with their studies, especially the girls from vernacular regions who found it difficult to follow lectures in English. It was not a favour I was doing for them, but it was my way of studying. I learnt more when I taught someone. It was a proud moment for me when almost 99% of those girls went ahead to do their post-graduation. I am always game to teach anyone as I believe imparting education and knowledge to someone is a way to enrich one's own thinking. You only learn more when you teach.
After many years, I got back to teaching and this is the very first time I was teaching someone as young as 6 years old and mind you, she is teaching me too...teaching me to be patient, teaching me to be prepared for all her innocent questions, and teaching me to control my temper.
But her innocent smile brightens up our days and my husband and I look forward to seeing her each day. I have a few other students too from higher classes, and they all help me become a kid again! I enjoy every session with them, although I must admit they can get on my nerves too especially when I see them spending more time than needed on simple arithmetic problems, the ones that should be done in an instant!!!!
What is more perplexing is the attitude of parents these days! Recently I came across a lady who wanted me to tutor her child. When I asked how much her child scores, I was stunned to know that the child scores a 95+ in her papers. In spite of such great scores, the parent wanted me to tutor her child. I fail to understand why!!! She was offering to send her child to me late evening and I had to remind her that her child would probably be so very tired after a tiring day at school and that it would be preposterous to expect her to stay awake with her studies so late at night. I can't understand why parents push their children so much! When we were growing up, the only times I went to private coaching classes was for my board exams. But private tuition seems to be the trend these days in spite of the high quality of education in schools these days. My parents never had to sit with me even for a single day regarding my studies. I was left on my own and I fared very well. I understand that weaker students would need some extra coaching, but when the toppers are also expected to take private tuition, isn't it too much?? Among the various reasons parents give to justify the need for private coaching the most common ones are:
1. I don't have time to supervise my child's studies.
2. I don't know the subject.
Regarding time, I cannot say much, to each his own. But regarding knowing the subject, this is what I have to say. If you find that the subject is tough, in spite of the detailed explanations given in the textbooks these days, how can you then pressurize your child to learn it and score a perfect score in all exams? We should help our children learn and understand their subjects. We should make learning an enriching experience, something that will help them for the rest of their lives, not only for scoring in their final exams. A person can also memorize everything by heart and replicate it in the papers and top the papers, but will that help him in later life? The real method of learning is to understand what we are learning. Only when we understand and picturize it in our minds, will that knowledge remain with us for a very long long time. This is what I feel. But since I do not have a child of my own, I am curious to know what you all think about the same. Please let me know your opinions regarding our education system.
8 comments:
good to see you back :)
TOO much emphasis and the rat race to get more marks .. thats all it is MORE MARKS .. not knowledge ..
i totally agree with what you say .. our education system is not good its more for people who can mug up content in the text book and can write it down on the answer sheet .. Thats it
I have been through it and I did not have knowledge yes i knew it all but when it came to doing it , it was like learning ot do it all over again ...
Bikram's
Mangala, Glad that you came back to us...
We are all happy that u are finding happiness teaching kids.
I have 2 daughters. A grade 5 and 8th. The grade 5 one we teach all subjects and she is the class topper.
The grade 8 one, we sent for English tuition, mainly because I don't have the time to sit with her and secondly we feel that we need some time for ourselves too. My partner too does not have time. However we teach her science subjects, arts and Maths. For English and Arabic we sent for tuition.
For most parents it is difficult to manage full time jobs, then running a house and on top of that teaching kids too. So I will not say tution is not needed. If a child needs extra help there is no harm in getting her that help when the parents do not have time.
However tution for a kid getting 95% is little too much.
I agree with you, when you teach you learn more. I always ask my daughters to help weak students in their class. During our college days I too used to do the same...
Teaching is one of the noblest profession in the world.
Hi Mangala .glad to see u back.I liked it when you said that we learn a lot when we teach others.It's nice that you have such a lot of friends for your company.Long time ,even we r not in touch.Take care
Welcome back Mangala! It is nice to see you back.
To answer your question: Let us NOT deny our children the joy of their childhood by pushing them too much.
By all means the only two things we carry over from school days are basic arithmetic and reading. Everything else is self taught, stemming from experience rather than from books...
Mangala, great to see you back. Welcome.. Congratulations for finding time for yourself (gym-ming), Happy that you are back at teaching, most importantly you are enjoying it. Superb...
Regarding the pressure parents put on their kids, as you mentioned, is helpless.. I recently saw one university declaring 99 or 100 % as the cut-off for entrance, sounds ridiculous, but it is the fact right? 95 or 96 % will not help.
As you also mentioned, when we were young, our parents let us on our own, & that was the best thing they did..
Great to see you back. Keep glued..
Hey Mangala, how about my bag??? :( hope you find some time for it...
Thanks for all ur feedback, Guys!
@Mak..dont worry, ur bag's under process..
Hi, stumbled upon your blog. I agree with you. Children today are under tremendous pressure because of the competition. I have a 7-year-old but I don't pressurize him. I too feel studies should never be a burden. Understanding is more important than memorizing and getting good marks. By the way, your crocheted bags are all very good.
Thanks Pradeepa, that's sweet of u!
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